
Lisa and Alan
A Mutually Beneficial Relationship
A NEW DIRECTION
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With a background in IT database programming, after finding herself made redundant from a job, Lisa began work developing her own creative ideas for an innovative digital platform. Lisa entered her work into the “Innovate” competition which included mentorship and a shared workspace as the first prize. Lisa was thrilled to make it as a semi-finalist out of 200 submissions. However, despite the amazing result, having missed out on the mentoring prize Lisa was left disappointed. Fortunately, Nicola, from Thrive Whanganui, connected Lisa to the MFNZ mentoring programme in her region. When Lisa heard about it, she eagerly took up the opportunity.
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FACING THE CHALLENGE
Mentoring is a mixture of experience, wisdom and relationship, using an independent set of tools and skills and does not require the Mentor to understand their Mentee’s industry. However, when that does happen it can be a bonus. Looking for a mentor to work with while developing the start-up platform, Lisa was hopeful of finding someone who had some idea of the challenges she faced. It was a big challenge, combining significant code; videoconferencing, communications and software protocols. It just so happened that Alan, one of the available mentors, had over 50 years of experience in design and microcomputing, programming and developing, as well as small business and consultancy expertise. Even so, when they met for the first time, Alan says he wasn’t instantly sure of the match. “When we met at the introductory meeting, I took note of Lisa and her project. Because I understood the complexity and wondered whether she might not realise just how technically advanced it was, I actually hoped she would not be matched with me!.”
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After being matched with Lisa and hearing Lisa speak more about her plans, Alan was quick to reconsider. He was duly impressed. “This was someone who knew exactly what they were doing,” says Alan. “After that I just had to work out what it was that I could do to contribute. It wasn’t that difficult for me, it was just a matter of being there for Lisa, encouraging her, listening and supporting her when needed.”
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A MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL RELATIONSHIP
Following their introductory meeting, any initial hesitance on Alan’s part quickly faded. Mutual interest turned into rapport, strengthened by regular coffee catch-ups. “We were a great match.” says Alan. Lisa felt the same, saying “We hit it off so well. Our meetings were supposed to be monthly, but we met weekly. I got so much from the meetings. And we emailed each other in between. We were constantly bouncing ideas. I liked the level of accountability too and if I hit a roadblock with my project, I was able to talk through the concepts with Alan.”
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Having the opportunity to thoroughly discuss her ideas helped Lisa to plan the direction she needed to go in, as she continued to develop her product. As well as his technical and relationship expertise, Lisa says Alan’s business experience was also very valuable. Alan was able to connect to a wider network, introducing her to other skilled people who could help.
While the relationship proved highly valuable for Lisa, Alan says it was also mutually rewarding for him. “I feel we’re equals – we cover slightly different domains and we learnt a lot from each other. Lisa actually mentored me right back,” says Alan.
Since the mentoring programme finished last year, they have continued to meet occasionally and have been inspired to pursue new areas of learning.
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When asked what he thinks makes a good mentor, Alan says, “Leadership and mentoring are essentially all about relationships.”
“The only way you are going to be able to mentor someone and influence them positively is through developing a personal relationship. You’ve got to start with yourself and being confident. Hold the relationship lightly, don’t get too over-invested. Remember it’s their project not yours. They won’t always take your advice so don’t take it personally. Listen, ask questions, and make suggestions only when needed.”
Wise words Alan. We’re grateful for your support and wish you and Lisa every success.